Dear Coper,
The best way to learn more about co-consciousness &
how to increase your ability to be co-conscious is to consult an experienced
therapist who works with trauma.
When I was in therapy, I increased my co-consciousness considerably by journalling. In a journal you can
write comforting, reassuring messages to all your alters & they can reply.
(sometimes the replies will be angry or dismissive or very sad. you've got
to be strong when you read some of the 'nasty' replies & understand that the
part which is replying is hurt & scared & is just lashing out. Although
sometimes even an angry reply has some important truth in it for you to
consider.)
I use a simple full-size 3 ring binder, & cheap lined paper, & I write, write, write. The good part about writing down your comforting messages (& the responses you get from insiders) is that you can re-read it at a later date & remind yourself about what you said & how you felt.
I'm sure other readers will have additional ideas about encouraging co-consciousness. Good luck!
Lynn
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Hi Coper,
I do believe also that journaling is a wonderful way to get to know everyone and they get to know you. It feels funny and sometime fake at first because most of us have that alter who has protected us with the denial for many years about who we really were on the inside, so don't let that stop you. The others simply reading your words is enough to comfort them. I personally don't have the group pow wows that many others talk about having. We each experience this in our own way and there is not right or wrong to feel it.
Second thing to try to remember is that I and many others also worried about what would happen to a loved one if a trigger happened like you described. It was my experience that when it came to those I really loved, like my children, the same triggers didn't set me off. The mother or responsible ones always took care of things. There were times when I would "wake up" after being gone for days and things would be ok. I've pretty much heard the same stories from others over these years, so relax your mind about that.
I found that once I relaxed and just let myself be I was better able to realize and become more co-conscious. Yes, and there were times when I was the back seat driver and didn't like the direction someone was going, but in time you learn how to keep yourself safer and somehow it just starts to work. If any of us could really pin how that happens we'd be making the Big Bucks, instead of the centers which still don't really get it most days.
Good luck and keep asking questions. That's how we learn. There are many groups on line to get involved with and there are no questions that haven't been asked before so be brave.
Lady J